Relationships Tips

Women Are Not Aliens


One of the very worst mistakes a man can make with a woman is to believe that she's an alien creature of some sort. By this I mean that it's a mistake to view women from the stance that they are an entirely different sort of being in every way possible. This simply is not true.

Women are different in many ways, but basically men and women are very similar. Everyone has the same basic needs. Physical needs, such as food and water, of course, are vital to everyone. We all possess the same basic emotional needs as well. We're all human and have the desire to be wanted and needed by someone special in our lives. We all have the need to be loved and cherished.

Men are taught not to be overly sensitive or show vulnerability else they're labeled as "sissy". That attitude may serve them well on the football field, but not in the relationship arena. Women adore men who are able to show their soft side to them.

Women like men who are strong and manly, yet sensitive and caring. Show her you have a heart underneath that tough exterior and she'll love you for it. Go ahead and let your guard down once in a while when the situation is appropriate. It's OK to be a tough guy, but when you're alone with your lady you need to soften up a bit.

If you come across as heartless, she's going to interpret that to mean you are incapable of feeling and experiencing love and she'll write you off as a lost cause. Women possess hormones which cause their emotions to get the best of them at times. That's just how it is and she can't change that.

Men also possess the same hormones in smaller quantities and they're taught early on not to let their emotions get the best of them. This carries over into their adult relationships with women.

Both sexes have a basic need to feel wanted, loved, and cherished. Don't be afraid to do things to show your lady she's loved. Go ahead and leave her little love notes where she's sure to find them. Present her with flowers every now and then "just because". Be kind and caring toward animals, young children, and elderly people.

Demonstrate to her that you are capable of being sensitive and nurturing and she'll soon realize that you're the sort of man she could fall in love with and that you're capable of loving her in return.

If you can show your soft side to a lady and make her feel special and cherished, you'll find this has a boomerang effect and she'll reciprocate by saying and doing things that make you feel wanted, loved and cherished as well.

Remember, those are basic emotional needs for everyone and you should never neglect to inject those feelings into your relationship every chance you get. By doing so, it makes the biggest difference in the closeness you'll develop with her.

Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved

Deborah Willis is the author of ATTRACT WOMEN -- The Average Man's Guide to Attracting, Dating, Loving, and Maintaining Relationships with Women. For more down-to-earth advice for men visit ATTRACT WOMEN

This article may be freely reprinted as long as the article resource is left intact and there is a live link to the author's web site.


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