| |
| |
|
Relationships Information |
|
|
|
Great Relationships - 3 Things to Avoid, 3 Things to Do
"Almost no one is foolish enough to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in any field of activity. Yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage." - Sydney J. Harris 3 Things to Avoid Complaint - In no way am I suggesting that if you have a legitimate complaint, you should keep quiet about it. What you want to avoid is becoming a member of the whine-and-moan group that complains out of habit and for the sake and pure joy of complaining. Complain too much and you will stop being heard. It's much harder to hear "you never do anything around here" than it is to hear "I'm wondering if you can help me with something"; and, it's important to follow a complaint with a suggested solution. Criticism - It's so easy to be critical. Each of us is a fallible human being, so there is always plenty to criticize. Constant criticism sucks the life out of any relationship. It causes the receiver to be on the defensive and derails any constructive conversation. Contentiousness - Contentious is defined by Webster as "exhibiting an often wearisome tendency to quarrels and disputes." It sure is wearisome. When every thing is a battle, you lose track of what is worth fighting for, like a great marriage. If you recognize yourself in any of the above, you may haveformed some bad habits. The good news is you can break bad habits by replacing them with good habits. Here are a few suggestions. What to Do Apologize - for something from the past. The ability to apologize demonstrates a strength of character rare in our world. If you have been married for more than a month, then you have enough history to find something for which you can apologize. A genuine apology has at least these three components: (1)Sorrow for what has happened CoupleTip: Apologizing for things in the past helps clean things up. Apologizing for things as they occur helps to keep the slate clean. Appreciate - something in the present. Do you know anyone who does not like to be appreciated? We need to do two things to be able to regularly appreciate someone. First, we can never take anything for granted. Second, we have to pay attention. I'll even give you some suggested opening words: "Thank you for . . ." These are magic words in marriage. CoupleTip: Make a list of all the things you appreciate about your partner. Then take the radical step of sharing the list. Anticipate - something in the future. We all need something to look forward to in life. This applies to couples as well. At the very least it can help you connect, and at the very best, give you hope. CoupleTip: Get out a calendar and plan a few fun couple events for the near future. Planning is not a burden, it's a privilege. Jeff Herrring, MS, LMFT is a relationship coach, marriage and family therapist, speaker and nationally syndicated relationship columnist. You can sign up for his free internet newsletter "Great Relationships Tip of the Week" on his website at http://www.SecretsofGreatRelationships.com
MORE RESOURCES:
Jamie Kennedy Talks Relationships, Valentine's Day Plans and Playing 'Cupid ... - Hollywood Reporter
Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
Five Easy Steps to Creating Your Dream Relationship Millions of singles across the world are looking to create relationship bliss. It takes time. Washroom Break Picture yourself at a bar with some of your buddies. Everybody is having a good time. Will They or Will They Not Cheat? Have you ever told your partner or spouse how you would feel if you found out they had been cheating? Maybe your spouse or partner will never cheat on you! Are would they?Ok, maybe they want cheat. But you must face the fact that your spouse or partner will be tempted with the "grass is greener on the other side" especially after all the responsibilities of parenthood have set in and things are not so carefree anymore. The Breakdown of Relationships and Why They Fail All females need sexual tension from a prospective or existing partner to consider having or continuing to have, a physical relationship with them. Lose this from the start and you will become mayor of the friend zone. Relationship Conflict: The 3 Cs of Resolving Conflict "And they lived happily ever after.. Gay Breakups: When the Rainbow Ends Introduction"It just hit me out of the blue when Mike left me. We hadn't really been together all that long, but I thought I'd finally found my true soul mate. Are Women From Utopia And Men From Wal-Mart? It is surprising how many writers, psychologists, or scientists have made it their life's work focusing on the gender differences. In our male-dominated society it is no coincidence that men have undertaken the bulk of this work. Players: How to Deal with Them Eventually, we'll all either play or be played. I'd like to give the inside scoop on how to handle these guys. Zen And Romance The art of romance and the art of Zen are actually very similar. By romance we mean the feeling of love, happiness, joy and delight in just waking up in the morning. Girl Talk - Boy Talk Chas and Dave wrote a song about it and how right they were. Women just love to rabbit! Whether you calling it chatting, nattering, gassing or just plain talking, we're way ahead of the opposition in the vocal stakes. What Is Love And The Love Equation What is Love? This question has bothered me for a long time. After listening to many perspectives and examining Love from several angles, the thought came to my mind that we have over-complicated Love and need easier to understand models. The Revenge Affair: Characteristics of the Adulterer "I Want to Get Back at Him/Her" is one of 6 kinds of affairs I outline in my E-book.This is the "revenge affair. Did He Think of Me? As a betrayed partner this was one of the first questions that I asked my husband when I found out about his affairs. Each affair elicited the same response from me. When Attracting Sexy Women, Remember... Time And Circumstance Change Everything Many guys are just too intimidated and full of anxiety around sexy women to be successful at attracting women. I've even seen guys who turn women's heads walking into a room who have this issue. Love or Lust Do you know what the definition of love is? This is it: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person, an intense personal attachment or affection, a person toward whom love is felt, a strong enthusiasm or liking. Do you know what the definition of lust is? Here it is: intense sexual desire or appetite, an over whelming desire, ardent enthusiasm, to have strong desire. Romantic Relationships: An Internal Process If you grew up in the 80s like I did, you might remember the group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get Enough." It is a song about being obsessed with the idea of being with someone, about needing another person. Long Distance Love Before the advent of the internet, long-distance relationships were rare. Most people met their mates in school, through a friend or neighbor, at a party or in a bar. Can We Still Be Friends? Excerpt From The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life by Kevin B. BurkEven when we know it's time to end a romantic relationship, we're often reluctant to let go of our partners completely. Infidelity: Spying is NOT Revenge Do not use what you find on your cheating spouse as ammunition for revenge. Sure, you may have wonderfully violent fantasies of what you would really like to do to him/her and the other person. Successful on the Outside, Lonely on the Inside: Our Hidden Epidemic I say "Loneliness. Isolation.
|
| home | site map |
| © 2010 |
