Relationships Tips

How to Tell If Your Boyfriend or Husband Is Cheating On You


The word infidelity brings with it fear to every woman I've ever had the opportunity to speak with. While many make the claim that their spouse would never cheat on them they realize that is false hope and that it could very well happen to them.

When trying to decide if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, you should start by looking for some of the warning signs.

  • Lower desire to be with you sexually.
  • Suddenly tries new sexual positions.
  • Working late more often.
  • Mysterious phone calls.
  • Gets angry when you look at the cell phone, pager, or computer. Is secretive of such.
  • Smell of perfume on their clothing.
  • Takes a shower as soon as he comes home.
  • You find hairs or other objects on his body or in his possessions.
  • Starts taking more care with his appearance.
  • Accuses you of cheating.
  • He changes his normal routine without cause or reason.
  • Now it's really easy to look at a list like this and see something that your husband does. That's why it's important to remember that you are looking for changes in his behavior. If you husband normally takes a shower as soon as he gets home from work then it is unlikely that this is a sign of his cheating. You are looking for multiple changes in behavior, routine, or personality; not isolated incidences or incidences that do not last. Take for example the lower desire to be with you sexually. This would be common when your husband is sick or under pressure at work. This alone should not raise any red flags. However, if you notice this and then a week later he comes home smelling of perfume, this is cause for alarm.

    There are many people out there claiming to be experts who will tell you that you should confront your husband when you become suspicious but, that is on of the worst things you can do. I've even read that you should confront because the longer you wait the better they become at lying to you. I believe these people have never been in your position. To confront without some sort of evidence will only lead to more lies. Do not be fooled, your boyfriend or husband has been lying to you for quite some time and is really good at it.

    If you confront without evidence you will be lied to. They will even lie when you have the evidence. Without evidence you will be left with more doubts than when you started and you will feel as if you are crazy. Your husband will spin it and make it seem as though he just can't believe that you would think such a thing about him. Also, you can bet your last dollar that he will become much more careful of his actions and behaviors and you may never find the truth.Also consider the possibility that your suspicions are unfounded. What will happen to your relationship if you confront then? You valued your relationship so little that you jumped to conclusions and accused your husband of cheating without any proof!

    Remember to always verify before you confront.

    Brandi Simon is the owner of InjuredHearts.com where she offers articles and information for those suffering the effects of an extramarital affair and other relationship issues. Brandi is an affair survivor who has successfully rebuilt her marriage from the ashes and offers advice to those who are recovering. To learn more about the website or Brandi, please visit http://www.injuredhearts.com


    MORE RESOURCES:

    Reflections: Relationships are gifts in life
    GoErie.com
    Life is relationship! It is impossible to be alive and not be in relationship. You are in relationship with everything around you. At this very moment, you are in relationship with the world around you through the breath you take, through the sights ...



    Relationships, communication theme of Friday's Warner Robins council retreat
    Macon Telegraph (blog)
    After ending at 7 pm Friday, the retreat will continue Saturday from 8 am to 3:30 pm OV Brantley, a former attorney for Fulton County governmental bodies, told council members their internal relationships are important to strong operations and images.

    and more »


    CBC.ca

    Depression Linked To Adolescent Bullying
    Medical News Today
    "Often the assumption is that problematic peer relationships drive depression. We found that depression symptoms predicted negative peer relationships. We examined the issue from both directions but found no evidence to suggest that peer relationships ...
    Depressed Adolescents More Likely to be BulliedPsychCentral.com
    Depressed adolescents likelier to be bulliedTimes of India
    Depressed adolescents more likely to be targets of bullying: StudyHealthJockey.com
    U.S. News & World Report -Expatriate Healthcare
    all 46 news articles »


    Cara Dorris '15: The fiction of relationship?
    The Brown Daily Herald
    Most people will tell you that there are two types of relationships at Brown: rigid, Facebook-official romances and hurried, efficient and occasionally chronic hookups. Though there are exceptions, most of us brag that we're too busy, even too selfish ...

    and more »


    PsychCentral.com

    Optimal conversation lowers stress in relationships
    Times of India
    Young couples who easily engage in rewarding conversations with their partners, experience less relationship stress and higher satisfaction, say researchers. According to research from Kansas State University, young adults who have optimal conversation ...
    Going With the Flow of Talk Brings Couples CloserPsychCentral.com

    all 12 news articles »


    Healthy relationship examples crucial for youth, experts say
    Maxwell Gunter Dispatch
    In the race to stop domestic violence, educating children before they date can provide the awareness for healthy relationships when they become adults. In the crucial years before youth start dating, parents and peers impact children's perceptions of ...

    and more »


    Relationships Art Exhibit at the SCAHC Gallery in Sussex
    NorthJersey.com (press release)
    In the Relationships Art Exhibit, the Sussex County Arts and Heritage Council is asking artists to explore, well, relationships—any relationship. And what seems to be a traditional subject for art can prove to have numerous possibilities when viewed ...

    and more »


    Jamie Kennedy Talks Relationships, Valentine's Day Plans and Playing 'Cupid ...
    Hollywood Reporter
    As for his research of the role, the actor joked, "I went to Zales," before admitting, "I think I've been in enough relationships that that was my research." Not that he claims to know what he's doing. "Being in all of my relationships, I'm even more ...

    and more »


    At NRC Hearing, Signs Of Improving Relationships
    Fox Business
    However, it offered several hints that personal relationships on the five-member commission may be improving less than two months after they boiled over at a pair of congressional hearings. The tensions have raised questions about the nuclear safety ...

    and more »


    Love Triangles: And Kitty Makes Three
    Patch.com
    When pets and relationships collide, there are better answers than dumping one of the feuding parties. This shorthair cat is available for adoption from the Santa Monica Animal Shelter. For more information, contact Sharon Hardy, owner of Sweet Potato ...

    and more »

    Google News

    home | site map
    © 2010